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עצות למתבגרים רגישים מאוד | חלק 1

מאת ד"ר איליין ארון, פסיכולוגית קלינית (Ph.D), מחברת הספר "אדם רגיש מאוד"

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All highly sensitive people, or HSPs, have stronger feelings than others. This is not a flaw at all. We think things through more, which is our great asset. But no one would do that if they did not feel something about the thing they were pondering, so to think more we need to feel more. Plus, the more you think about something, the more your feelings about it can increase.

Fortunately, we feel more good feelings as well as bad ones. We notice more subtle reasons to be happy, such as beauty or another's kindness. But we can also feel more worried, sad, or irritated than others.

I said HSPs feel more, but some can become expert quite early at covering up their strong feelings. Boys and men do this more because in our culture they are not supposed to show very much emotion. (I will use "emotion" and "feeling" interchangeably.) Or you may be growing up in a family in which certain feelings, or most feelings, are not allowed. Or your parents may have been doing all they could, all of your life, to reduce your strong feelings, and you have accommodated their wish as best as you could.

But emotions bottled up often become emotions we don't even know we are having, and then they come out in other ways. That is not a good method for dealing with emotions. Besides, feelings tell you how you are reacting to a situation and usually tell you what you should do in it. Anger means stand up for yourself or leave. Sadness serves to make you seek others, or make others come to you, in times of trouble. Fear is, of course, a warning. And so forth. You want to feel things and need to. But you do not want to, or need to, be overwhelmed by feelings beyond what is necessary for getting you to act. You also do not want others to think you have no self control.

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